Is it wrong to be vulnerable and transparent in your emotions?
Seeing what you want to see or seeing a better reality.
Apart from my professional career that paid the bills, in my capacity as a healer I have in the past done my best to be gentle, caring and compassionate. 15 years ago I began to study thinking patterns, modern psychology of NLP and advanced coaching and more. After 40 years as a successful healer I finally discovered how some of the most staggering healings worked. As an NLP master practitioner and a life and sportsmind coach I realised how the gentle, caring compassionate attitude gets in the way of healing. It does not matter the nature of what is being healed, body, soul, feeling, emotions, life problems or professional failings. Whether, a healer or coach, healing or any form of progress only starts happening when the patient or client begins to make appropriate choices and decisions. The full description is set out on my book, Activating Spontaneous Healing. You can find how to purchase a copy at www.asrkey.com
I read the following question on a social media site: “Is it wrong to be vulnerable and transparent in your emotions…while interacting with others???”
You make your choices and then accept the consequences. if not you are at risk of seriously undermining what is left of your own confidence.
In my past capacity as a legal expert, I quickly learnt that my personal and professional experience carried far more weight in any argument than quoting from elegant or studied text derived from someone else’s mind crunching exercises. So the following is derived from well over 40 years experience rather than my personal beliefs.
To be vulnerable is to be a victim. Do you actually want to choose to be vulnerable or be a victim? Do not be surprised many people do. Ask yourself and please decide what and who you want to be. Do you want to lead yourself or do you want to be led by the nose to be a slave to everyone else and their insensitive choices? It is not right or wrong to be vulnerable. It is a matter of making choices; about what you want also your attitudes and values.
I have heard so many people who admit to believing they themselves are losers. They are the people quick to open up, be vulnerable and transparent particularly in training seminars. My conclusion is they have chosen to fall on their own sword because they chose to be vulnerable to the rest of the world who willingly then profit by their vulnerability. They willingly call themselves losers because they have recognised the results of their choices but failed to observe the attitudes or behaviours that actually turn them into losers.
Thus, be careful about being wrong, vulnerable or transparent. Unless you are a loser there is never any merit in being wrong. In my experience only losers deliberately make themselves vulnerable. Be transparent at your own peril. Those who openly make themselves wrong, vulnerable or transparent are most likely in search of a support crutch, love at any price or a temporary boost to their permanently leaking self-confidence. What are you in search of?
Being Vulnerable is Easy. Being Smart Takes Just a Little Thought.
If you need to ask the following question follow it immediately with another, which says; what do you want your life to be?
Is it wrong to be vulnerable and transparent in your emotions?
