Stress Recovery and the 4 Healing Questions

Stress Recovery and the 4 Healing Questions

 

My name is Robert Denton, I have been through overwhelming stress, seriously serious burnout and back. Well actually not back, rather forward.

 

I use the word recovery in the title of many of my articles on healing serious stress because that is the word people so often use as a search word. In most cases the word recovery as far as overwhelming stress and burnout is concerned is a ‘fausse ami’ (false friend). Recovery means going back to where you were in the past that actually got you into the high stress mess.  This is an example of how some thinking patterns hold us back. You see, where we put our mind that is where we go. So focusing on stress and recovery simply feeds more stress to recover from because it is not possible to go back in time or space. Also, as far as high stress is concerned it is not a good idea.

 

Now if we focus on healing and the future also changing many thinking patterns along with those two things, now that is something else. The new or changed behaviour is putting our thoughts in a totally different place with absolutely different results.

 

Sorry to blow my own trumpet and if I do not you simply will not know. Therefore I will explain that after my burnout healing I started studying what stress is, how it behaves, what are the consequences and why. Most of all I analysed clients stress and my own stress over a 30 year period.

 

The results are amazing, full of paradoxes and frequently I found so many beliefs about stress are quite the opposite to what is really happening.

 

In healing overwhelming stress and burnout, it is so important to understand the stress is being fed by stress enhancing thinking patterns. Hating every moment of going to work because someone is making your life hell just increases the stress because that is where your mind is, it is what you are expecting therefore it is what you get. That is where you are placing your thought energy. That energy is so powerful it perpetuates the situation.

 

Growing rich is fed with rich thinking patterns.

A life full of struggle is full of struggle thinking patterns.

Just surviving is fed with survival thinking patterns.

A life of poverty is fed with poverty thinking.

A life of abundance is fed with abundance thinking patterns and so on.

 

The 4 healing questions will start you off on a journey of knowing yourself in order that you can heal your own stress. That is a thousand times better than popping anti depressant pills all the time.

 

Which do you want?  To be dependant on your doctor and a bottle of pills that numbs your brain and senses or learn how to get into stress healing thinking patterns and grabbing back full control of your life. Which do you want, to give up responsibility for your self, becoming like a child that has to be looked after all the time or to experience all your senses, some of which you may have never realised existed. The five basic senses are just the beginning. So if you want to start enjoying life again, mastering your full capacity to express and enjoy yourself then here is what you can do.

 

Once a week for 45 weeks of the year you will be coached on the internet by me. I will start by asking you the 4 primary healing questions. Then you have to do your part. So it is like this. The success of this training and coaching is in you discovering what you want also what you want to change. The next stage is also up to you. Another powerful advantage is that daily coaching and reminding yourself of what you do want is infinitely better that a once a week coaching bash and a void in between.

 

Normally an hour of personal coaching can cost anything from US$ 200 to US$ 1,000.Fair enough that is one-to-one coaching on a high level. For just $33.25 you can have the same powerful coaching. So why is it so reasonable. The simple answer is that for most people and situations intensive coaching is not always the most effective. New research has shown how a fantastic coaching can take place with a few statements and carefully thought questions.

 

Write to me Robert Denton at robertdenton@rdcoaching-power.com  for further details of this special coaching and a super bonus.

 

You know life is one continuous learning process. Two weeks ago a new wood fired oven, room heater and source of central heating was being installed in my house in the Alps. On the Tuesday I helped to transport the 350Kilo beast up the mountain. With impeccable planning that went perfectly. The plumber was due on the Wednesday and I had an uneasy feeling. The Plumber arrived as promised but it quickly became apparent that he had no intention of doing the work and said he wanted to submit another estimate.  I felt troubled because I knew that meant loosing time and the snows are due at any moment. Once the snows fall access for all but that which can be carried in a rucksack will be blocked until next March or April.

 

I stayed calm and two weeks passed with no word so I rang the supplier. The manageress was surprised to hear my concern as she had understood from her team all went well. The fact is that her team had tried to cover up a serious error on their part, which was the cause of the plumber not making the necessary central heating pipe connections.

 

What was my lesson? Oh yes, There are times to be kind and tolerant and there are times to take action instantly. Communication is a great thing so long as people are communicating in the right way. So my intention of being understanding  and patient may have cost me a winter of sub-zero temperatures of -11°C to -22°C with only one fire to keep the chalet warm. Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

With further analysis of my intentions and non action I realised I had cared for all those others including the ones that created the mess and further delay and had not cared for myself and my own interests.  You might think that is just selfish but let’s remember who is supposed to be providing a service and who is paying the bill. The world is changing extremely fast and old redundant values like being patient have to be re-assesed.

 

So waste time avoiding action if you will. Remember hesitation is a costly and often sobering luxury that in most cases has hidden costs.

 

This is Robert Denton

Performance trainer/coach in healing stress